Dare to be Different

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  • December 8, 2012

Dare to be different


A Globe of the World or a ball
2 Oversized T shirts
Adhesive Tape



Use a ball or globe of world and throw to one person – state a word and give 3 seconds to state the opposite. Then throw the globe to another person and state a word – the other person must state the opposite – Set a time limit to ensure the game is a challenge.

Any word we use as a descriptive word has an opposite to it

The bible refers to the things that happen around us as worldly and warns us to be careful not to have a worldly focus. What would you say the opposite to worldly is? (Allow for answers) For today’s exercise we will term it “Other Worldly”.


In this activity we will look at one such descriptive word and it’s opposite. (Use the oversized shirts – one for the worldly and one for the other worldly)
2 Groups – 2 oversized shirts – Worldly & Other worldly – Choose models for the shirts – Ask the youth to describe how each would look to them or actions they may see associated with worldly or other worldly living. – Tape to shirt – Parade – One to read from each group descriptions (write on board in 2 sections marked “worldly” “other worldly”

We have identified differences between worldly and other worldly people.
The question is “Which one best describes you?” Can you be both? Why of why not?

Close your eyes – Sit back and imagine these scenes.

Read Matthew 7:13-14

Enter through the narrow gate, for wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it.” Matthew 7:13

Imagine the wide gate, a big double gate, like the ones on a farm, at the entrance to the long driveway that winds up to the front of the house. The gate is huge, big enough to drive 3 cars through at once and you wonder “Why is this gate so wide?” You untie the old rusty chain and stand on the bottom rail of the gate and it swings open as you ride it until it stops suddenly in the long grass at the side of the track.

Suddenly, the open gate reveals a massive highway; full of traffic all heading in the one direction, following each other like sheep, not really stopping to consider the direction in which they are travelling. The sound is overwhelming, the sheer size of the highway staggers you, is it 4 lanes, maybe 6 or 8, to many travellers to count. Your head becomes hazy, foggy, do I follow them, is this my way too. Make a decision you yell inside your head.

You pull your gaze away; your head feels dizzy from the constant rush, the steady stream of those heading for……..for destruction.

You close the gate and silence replaces the business of the wide road. Ahh silence, can you hear it?

You realise, this is the broad road, often travelled by many a weary soul, the wide road, wide enough to accommodate the many who will use it.
This is the main road, heavily populated with people of varying nationalities, backgrounds, religions, ideas, languages. Everyone is oblivious to the destruction waiting at the other end.

This is the journey for those who choose the broad road, the common road, the familiar road, some would say, the easy road.

But small is the gate and narrow is the road that leads to life and only a few find it. Matthew 7:14

You are now composed; your head begins to clear. You look to the left and you see a gate.

A narrow gate, much like the gate at the front of Grandmas house, where you reach over to flick up the latch and as you enter through it, it creaks as it opens showing its old age. This gate has been here for a long time, not hidden nor disguised but just unnoticed when compared to the huge double gates at the front of the other property. It’s a one person at a time gate, two only able to squeeze through by turning sideways, taking a deep breath and slowly, purposefully edging past.

As you enter you see the path that leads to the front door of the house, inviting, beckoning you to enter. This path is the narrow road, not travelled by all; in fact many miss the turn off and journey right on by with barely a single glance. You look back toward the wide gates and you see people streaming through, innumerable, yet on the narrow road only a few warm faces pass you by. This road is often ignored because it doesn’t seem as exciting as the broad road. It doesn’t look as attractive as the broad road. You stop and pause and think to yourself, many of my friends don’t travel on this road so why should I. The thrill of the highway seems exciting; the lure of following your friends is tugging at you stronger and stronger. But the narrow road is quiet, peaceful and serene.

The narrow road is the road that leads to life, a different life, not the same as the one on the busy broad road.
The wide road or the narrow road “Which will I choose”

Open your eyes

Remember the differences we discussed between worldly and other worldly? (Refer to the board)

The wide road is travelled by the worldly people, enjoying their rewards today. The narrow road is travelled by the “other worldly people” living life Christ’s way, waiting to receive their rewards.

Will you dare to be different and travel the narrow road or will you follow the maddening crowd to destruction.

Show video. (Here)

Is this how your unsaved friends see you, as no different? Can you lead them to Jesus if they don’t see that it makes any difference in your life? If you act, talk and live exactly the same way they do?

As an example, if I tell you I am an environmentalist who loves the earth and wants to save it for future generations and at the same time I unwrap my McDonald’s meal (upsize) and throw the wrappers over my shoulder. What would you conclude about what I just said to you about my love for the environment?

When unbelievers see Christians act like the world, they conclude that their message is not genuine, not real. They conclude that you don’t even believe what you are saying yourself so why would they believe it.

I want to challenge you all today. I challenge you to take the road less travelled. I want to challenge you where you sit to be different, in fact the challenge is “dare 2B different” (Write on board)
I want you to have a real burden on your heart for your unsaved friends; I want you to want your friends to be saved, to have a relationship with Jesus. Is that what you want?

Write on this piece of paper 5 friends or people you know that you would like to see come to understand who Jesus is. Tuck it away. Pray for them and decide how you might tell them about Jesus.

To do that, you are going to have to dare to be different.

Additional Passage

Philippians 3:12 – 14
Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect; but I press on, to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it but one thing I do, forgetting what is behind me and straining toward what is ahead. I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.

Small Group Questions.

During this time, take most time to listen to the kids, hearing what they have to say and why they have to say it

  1. What are the hardest things about being different as a Christian?
  2. Why do we want to be the same as others?
  3. Would you rather be accepted by others and follow what they say or accepted by Christ and do what he says? Why?
  4. How can you commit to being different this week?

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